Saturday, September 24, 2011

My Life Inbetween: Reflections on Albania and Life


We have been in Albania for nearly two weeks now and are becoming more adept carrying on our daily routine. We have found that the first few days in a new country are often the most difficult. If you do not have any concept of where your flat is, how to shop, how to get from point A to point B, essentially how to function at any level, you essentially become like a child dependent on his parents for every task in life. Fortunately, whenever we have moved to another country, a person or family has taken us under their wings and taught us the basics. We are grateful to people over the years for showing us around patiently while we learn how to live and not just to survive.

The Lorings are helping us adjust here in Albania. We can now shop successfully for food, go for walks around town (currently staying on our side of town), take the trash out (this is very important) and other basic activities. We even went out to eat on our own once. One item I want to secure early in our stay in any place away from home today is a cell phone. If I have a phone and know that I can call for help to our host family, life is much less scary.

I took a walk this morning by myself as Phyl(Liz)z is a bit under the weather. Korca reminds me a little of Albuquerque, where my brother lives. He can leave his house and be walking in the foothills of the Sandia Mountains within a few minutes. Fortunately we have a similar situation here. I walked up the street past “our” grocery store, continued up toward the Korca Brewery and turn left just before the brewery. If one walks a few hundred meters on the road you pass institutions that make me think how blessed I am. A landmark building is a home for the handicapped. This is actually a wonderful facility that takes good care of its residents, but I can see them looking out the window through barred windows while I am strolling freely up the tarmac toward the sky. Next, I see what I perceive to be a family-built little prayer chapel, but it may be something else. The road becomes very steep when I reach this point, moving from a pleasant grade that raises the pulse somewhat to a cardiac intensive uphill that taxes my body. But, foolishly I attack it with gusto – more on that later.

Near the top of this steep road is an Orthodox Church. I doubt that this marvelous little structure set so high up is attended by many – perhaps it is more of a museum – I don't know. As I reach the church building I make the decision to continue walking upward and not turn off on the road to the track that runs relatively level (no tarmac, just lots of rocks on this road) and loops back to town. I continue on the steep, upward path. I am breathing heavily, but feeling pretty good as I trudge up the steep tarmac. However, about ten or fifteen minutes later, it becomes apparent that this path is going to defeat me. The top of the foothills seems mile off and very much higher. I slow down and walk a little farther when I see an old gentleman sitting on a bench by the road. I break Albanian cultural traditions and greet him with a “Hello”. He naturally looks at me and almost smiles, but it would be just too much for most Eastern Europeans to greet a stranger on the road, in town, or anywhere.

I realize that if he has stopped at this point, maybe I should too. I turn left onto a gravel path to a cell tower but the path seems to go no farther. The old gentleman gets up and starts walking slowly down a path that goes away from the road. I stand and try to decide whether or not follow him down as his ambling looks more recreational than my trekking on the tarmac. While I am pondering the road or the path, I hear the slapping of a jogger's footsteps. I man is jogging down the road and passes me by. Just then a Mercedes roars up the hill. I realize that I am caught “inbetween”.

My chronological age matches more closely that of the older gentleman so peacefully meandering down the path away form the tarmac road. However, my cultural positioning matches more closely the man jogging downhill and the Mercedes roaring up the tarmac. What to do? I want to go down the path, but I somehow end up walking down the tarmac. I find my cultural positioning stronger than my desire to stroll down the path with the older man. Somehow staying on the tarmac seemed safer than walking on the path. I will attempt to choose the path next time.

Albania is the fifth “foreign” country that we have lived in. However, our town, Korca, contains the fewest English speaking people of the place we have lived. Tanzania and Nigeria are former British
colonies and contained large English speaking expat contingents. The Czech Republic was a tourist oriented country and of course we taught in an English language school there so we lived in an English language environment. Mazatlan was a tourist town also and we had an English language church to attend Sunday mornings which put us in touch with a few hundred English speaking people. Here, we are quite isolated linguistically.

We have spent approximately ten percent of our lives living outside the USA. This puts us in good stead for undertaking assignments such as the one we are on. It also causes my world view to be quite different from the typical American, but still worlds away form the typical Czech, Mexican or Albanian. I am “inbetween” many cultures but live for the most part in the culture of the richest country on earth and I greatly appreciate it riches. The riches of America are what allow us to work in other countries!

Why are we in Albania? The answer is simple. We feel equipped by our past and blessed by our present circumstances in life so that we can do things others might find difficult. However, especially to me, John, living in another land and teaching missionary children is a joy. In fact, it is much easier for me to live here and teach than it would be to minister in certain areas at home. God gives us grace and abilities to do different things and I feel that this is mine in particular and that Phyl(Liz) is well equipped for this type of undertaking also. She is so creative in all aspects of life that she can function well in all places and situations. One of the greatest evidences of this fact is how she can make a great meal out of the foods we have been able to buy here.

Our great joy here is working with Ashlie and Isaac. Ashlie is fourteen and a beautiful young lady. She is much like our granddaughter Kaley in personality – not a morning person for one thing. Isaac is a no nonsense type of boy somewhat like our grandson Steve. He is very sharp academically and tackles all assignments with gusto. We supervise their computer based home schooling from 9:00 AM until they finish their work – usually around 2:00 PM. We do take the mandatory (in my mind) snack break around 11:00 each day. It has been fun getting to know Ashlie and Isaac and finding how to best work with the learning styles of these two very different young people. John does the math and science for both of them while PhylLiz usually takes on the Bible, History, Geography, Spelling, etc. Each day is different in who supervises exactly who supervises which subjects depending on the number of assignments each one has for the day and who is away doing a quite rigorous hike or bike ride – each of them go on about a two hour hike or bike ride each week, leaving us with only one student at the beginning of Monday through Thursday. On Fridays we then all go together on a walk/adventure accompanied by food and drinks.

Our first few days here have gone well. We did have a period of about forty-eight hours of clouds, rain and gloomy weather, but for the most part, the weather has been sunny. It was a little too warm the first week, but now that fall is here, our highs are in the sixties and seventies – just right.

On my walk this morning I saw something that I have never seen in America. There were a group of boys playing football (aka soccer in America) in what was essentially a forest. It was an orderly planted forest of pine trees that are quite tall with their lower branches trimmed quite high. My thoughts were that playing on such a field would teach one to keep his head up while dribbling and that passing must be more pinpoint that on an open field. I think these are two lessons that should apply to all of life. We need to keep our thoughts on high while we go about the basics of life and make sure our communications with others are spot on and clear. Otherwise we will be crashing into barriers in life and our words with our family, friends and colleagues will not convey the message we want them to as they bounce off our different personalities.

Speaking of football, the Lorings are great fans and we can watch the Premiership matches with them anytime. Ian and his Albanian friend Holder watch all the Manchester United matches. We will be headed to the Lorings later this afternoon to see Arsenal's match at 4:00 followed by the Man U match at 6:30. I think God knew what he was doing when He brought us here!

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